I asked Bob Grant, author of
The Woman Men Adore (a
book which I recommend HIGHLY and which readers have had high praise of)
to
share some insights with us from time to time.
Bob Grant talks to many men and women who are going through a divorce.
He advises that the first few months after a divorce/breakup are NOT the
time to try and figure out what went wrong.
"The first and most critical step is to allow yourself time to heal.
DON'T isolate yourself. If you did, it would be impossible for others to
support you. The first 6 months to a year after a divorce are hard
enough, so don't make it worse. Force yourself to rise from your sorrow
if you have to. Get out there and spend time around caring people - now
more than ever."
Bob says that we may discover that we are always secretly drawn to men
who expose areas in our lives that we need to work on. "They push your
buttons," Bob says. "The men you date or marry will expose your
unresolved issue - always." (continued...)
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and Never Want to Leave by Bob Grant, LPC
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Take this example: Susan just got divorced. Her husband always expressed
anger by yelling. This made her feel out of control. Susan now swears
that she will never again marry a man who yells.
"Within 2 years, Susan meets and marries Jeff. Jeff never gets angry.
Problem solved - right? No. Jeff gets angry like everyone else, but when
he's angry, he becomes silent. Susan finds that this silence brings
about the same panic in her that her first husband's yelling did," says
Bob.
"Has she made a bad choice with Jeff? No, but she has to deal with those
feelings of being out of control. The situation forces her to deal with
those
feelings. If she blames Jeff for her unhappiness, she is destined to
divorce again."
Bob has hope for the pain of lost love: "To fully rise from the pain of
a breakup, the final stage of healing is so simple yet most people miss
it:
"Forgive yourself, and forgive your ex. Forgive yourself for all the
things you could have done. Forgive your spouse for everything you wish
he had
done.
"Make the decision to move on and leave the past behind, no matter what
it is. That is the final step in emerging from a divorce or breakup."
That's from Bob Grant, the author of
Get Your Man Back
Just recently, when going through the email, I got this note about Bob
Grant's book:
"Dear Mimi,
"Thanks for the advice on ordering this e-book! It's brilliant! I can't
believe my man is doing so much for me! Thanks again -- J."
That book she just finished, by Bob Grant, is:
The Woman Men Adore -
How To Be The Woman Men Adore, and Never Want To Leave
Another reader said this:
"Anyway, I just wanted to say thanks for recommending this book. I would
never normally buy things like this from the internet - I am just one of
those who think it will be a complete rip-off - but this is not. I
am already telling my friends about these techniques and the book."
www.TheWomanMenAdore.com
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